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My quick beauty secrets for the mom on the go!

Make up for the mama on the go!

As a busy mom I am always on the go and most of the time I look like it to. I would be lucky if my socks match. My style has been socks with ballet shoes, leggings, oversized t-shirt and my hair up. Of course its one of those days when you have had the same baby spit up shirt on for two days, your hair in a hot frizzy mess of a pony tail, that you run into someone important or worse… your ex. And it is hard, really hard, to spend some time on you. Like my mom say’s once you have kids your life is not yours anymore and I wouldn’t change anything about that. But I do need to figure out how to love me again.

I know I am not going to magically lose the 20 pounds I gained from my pregnancy or the few stretch marks I have will disappear. I get that, but I also know there are other things I can do to boost my self-esteem. Ya ya I know appearance isn’t everything especially when you just had a child however self-image is a big deal now a days. We see it in magazines and movies about the put together mom who can accomplish all. And all I want to do is look into the mirror and love myself. I want to know I put an effort because I am worth that effort.

Now how can I do that if most of the time I only have a few minutes before my toddler comes around looking for where I hid (yup sometimes I play hide and go seek in order to run to the bathroom or to just take a quick breather). From research and reviewing others tips and tricks I established my own ideas on how to do my hair and make-up quickly and effectively. Below is a list of my must have make up items and why it works!

  1. I use BB cream to not only give my complexion a great smooth look but it is also a sunblock and facial moisturizer as well. The brand I liked best was Missha M Perfect Cover BB Cream. The coverage was amazing and my dark spots seemed to be getting lighter. To give you a little info about BB cream it is very light so when you put it on its ok if you miss a little spot. It doesn’t create those lines you see on some people that did not blend their foundation well. For me that’s perfect because sometimes I am blindly putting it on and fast. This brand was also my favorite because it was easy to find the right skin tone for me and the liquid didn’t squirt out everywhere when I used it. Click on the picture to learn more about the product!

2. I use a pink and reddish tented lip gloss. My beauty secret is that I not only use it for my lips but also cheeks and eyes to give them color. I dab very lightly on my cheeks and then I rub it in. I might put more on my eyes to give a bolder color. Surprisingly it is not as sticky as I thought it would be. Now I do need to use my make – up remover to get it fully off my face but the other side to that is that it lasts long. I didn’t need to worry about reapplying for color in the cheeks or eyes. My favorite is below because since my lips are sensitive this helped with my lips pealing and was spf!

3. What I believe is my best feature is my eyes. I always make sure I have a great mascara brand that work well with my lashes. They say your eyes are the windows to your soul and I want my soul to say I am a confident mama!

Another reason why I love the products above is that it easily fits in my purse and doesn’t take much room. No need to tote a make – up bag around. They are my go to items that take me less than 5 minutes to put on. Just enough time for my mini me to find me from hide and seek or to put on in the parking lot. Below are a few more items that I will complement the above items with if I am lucky enough with time!

Powder to add a little bit more color and I feel like it lasts longer too since I am using a cream for a foundation.

Since straightening my hair takes forever it is out of the question. Plus I am paranoid of my little girl accidently touching it or tripping over the cord when she runs around me. My next best thing is my rollers. My hair does look great with the volume and curve it creates. Plus it takes a lot less time for me to do. While me hair is up I can be putting on the make-up. Also my rollers really straighten out my hair pretty well from the wave I have.

Now a favorite item of mine is my lip buffer! This sugar scrub leaves my lips smooth and baby soft! My lips tend to peal a lot and this gently exfoliates those dead skin cells and is not harsh at all. Also it is minty leaving my breath smelling good and it taste good as well (yup it is safe to taste). 

Something new I have tried since it has become such a fad is my eyebrows. I didn’t like how the pencil looked so I tried something new. It was of a gel consistency that glided really smooth and naturally. Then there is a powder to lock it in. I loved the look and it was actually fairly easy to do. My favorite brow brand was from ELF!

Now I still might be messy with my sock wearing ballet slipper shoe self but when I look in the mirror I feel better when I do those few simple make – up techniques. I know that as a mom I’m not going to be perfect but I give off that I do care about myself and I want my daughter to remember that. Now when I look in the mirror I don’t just see a tired messy person staring back, I see a confident hard working mom that looks like she has a little bit of herself together and doesn’t mind getting dirty too.

(Above are affiliate links. Affiliate links do not mean that the products are cheaper or more expensive; You click on the picture and a link will bring you to view the product description and location to buy. These products I recommend because they ARE great products, at great prices, and they worked for me!)

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How to stay on your diet and still cook what the family wants!

It was very hard for me to cook for myself and the family. My husband was born and raised in the Dominican Republic and grew up eating what seems like nothing BUT carbs and starches. My problem is I am really not a carb person. Literally every meal for him is a meat, rice, and potatoes (YUKE). He won’t eat anything else. No Veggies, No Salad, No fruit, No Fish, I mean nothing else (sigh)… Worse is my daughter loves to eat like him too so I am outnumbered. I can only hope when my son gets older and can eat solid foods that he turns out like me and will like to eat everything and try new things.

So you can imagine eating all those carbs has done to my waist line and my confidence. I have gained 35 pounds (this was even pre-baby!) and it is so hard to lose. I really had to figure something out. My husband’s advice, “Just do portion control love and workout more.” When he said that to me I glared at him and threw a pillow in his face. He also had the nerve to try to argue that white rice is healthy for you because your body needs carbs. My husband obviously needs a course in food education on good and bad carbs.

If only it was that easy to just portion control more and workout more. Instead I was thinking I am going to have to cook two separate meals and buy twice the groceries then in order to accommodate for me and my needs. Yes this is a need because I wasn’t happy with the food I was eating and then feeling. The problem in this is I really couldn’t afford to buy extra food just for me to eat healthy. What could I do then?

I started to reevaluate what I bought and had to think of another way to use most of those ingredients I use to cook his unhealthy stew and Latin food to making my clean eating meals. What I noticed is a consistency of onions, tomatoes, peas, carrots, green peppers, and garlic. I could use most of those ingredients not only for his stew and meals but also for separate meals for me. I realized I wouldn’t have to exactly buy as much as I thought. Instead of putting all the ingredients into his and my daughters dish I could take my portion of that out and use it to make a salad or something lighter. Below is an example of how I started to cook smarter!

Theirs: Chicken stew – chicken breast, tomatoes, onions, garlic, lots of seasonings (so much sodium), potatoes, peas, carrots, cilantro, and beer (to create the broth of the stew). Then there is a side of rice and a hardboiled egg.

Mine: chicken cooked in tomatoes, onions, cilantro, and garlic (baked). Then there is a side of steamed broccoli and salad – lettuce, tomatoes, onions, carrots, and boiled egg.

The only thing extra I had to buy was broccoli, lettuce, and salad dressing. Everything else was already used for the stew. Since I already was cutting everything up for the stew it worked great because I would then just put that in with my salad or chicken. There really wasn’t any extra work! I still have to plan out the meals for the week but that’s what I do now. I see what I am going to cook them and the ingredients they will need. I then figure out what I can make from those ingredients that can be healthy for me.

I started to lose weight right away and feel better too! Don’t get me wrong I began to work out and watch my portions as well. Yes occasionally I would eat the food my husband likes to eat everyday but the key word here is occasionally. So next time your planning your family meals think what you could do to make your meal healthier and still satisfy them! Want to keep following what I do? Watch me on snapchat at caciastyle to see my food inspirations and quick workouts throughout the day!

Blogging in the Moment

Image of the Phone

When we step outside and join society we don’t really join society. We can be physically there next to someone but thanks to technology we rather connect with other strangers through the web than the ones next to us. For instance, when was the last time you went to a restaurant? (For me its been forever, can’t take my toddler to where she can sit with strangers because she will!) You rarely sit down at a table, look around you, and not see majority on their phone. Even the kids! The average age of a kid having a smart phone is 10. Really! At ten I was trying to figure out the tv or radio, yet alone a cell phone. We played on Nintendo’s and had to go outside to interact with kids. But I shouldn’t complain, it’s because of phones I am able to run my business.

In the Now

With smart phones in everyone’s hand they are able to keep up with the latest news, trends, and stay connected with people. We jump up with joy when we hear that bing sound to let us know exactly when things are happening on our social news feed. And we live for those bings! Groups or individuals are able to reach each other at any time and view what each other are doing right in that moment. It makes us feel like we were actually there. Families and friends can now be thousands of miles away and still feel like they are with you at special events.

The Necessity of the Phone

I do not know if you read my about me page but I am a very busy mom. I have two little ones, work a full time job, a side job of web design/development, as well as my own blog. Let’s not go into the things outside of work, that’s a whole other novel. When I am working I focus on what I need to accomplish. But of course there are moments in those hours that I really want to capture and share. Especially my ah ha moments to help other busy Do It All Moms! With my phone I am able to capture those events instantly and express genuine feelings. Followers want to see what happens in your life. It’s their real life of Keeping Up with the Kardashian but somewhat more personal. As a blogger I can respond to their reactions, comments, and questions.  I can also follow fellow bloggers and partner up with them at that time. There are periods when something happens that I realize I need to share or question for help. I am able to write down ideas when they happen in the note’s section in my phone. In all without my phone I truly believe I would not be successful at what I do.

Bad Images

Constantly being on the phone can set off a bad image to those around you. You can come off rude to those who do not have an online business. Family and friends might not understand the need of taking pictures every time they meet up with you and the constant posts. It will appear like you can’t live without the phone. It can seem to others around you that you can’t live in the now with people in that moment. You might appear fake because most of the time you are repositioning everything so that it looks perfect. Or they think worse that you had alternative motives to really catching up and hanging out with your friends. There is a gap of understanding what we really do as bloggers and what it takes to have a successful one.

Ways to Edit

Here are a few tips I use to correct those bad images that can be portrayed when constantly on the phone. When I do use those moments in my blog I include that person in it. I give them a shout out in the article expressing how I felt and why that moment was special with them. I always link the blog post back to that person so that they can see that I truly appreciated the time and why I had to brag about them. In my post, Pampering on the Dime, you can see how I utilized this technique with my mom. It’s something simple but she really enjoyed reading it and wanting to know the stats on that page. Also she couldn’t help but share the post on her social media threads. These little things help the ones around you understand what you do and make them feel exceptional. Now my mom sends me ideas and links to things so that she can be in every post!

In the Moment

Blogging in the now takes a lot of effort and time. To me it’s not just a 9 – 5, Mon – Fri job. Of course blogging can make you money but it’s even more about the strangers you meet that then become friends. My friends and family get to see another side of me and get to know what I was really thinking. It’s very personal and something I really enjoy. I am very passionate about my blog and why shouldn’t I be? It’s about my view on life and if I’m not passionate about myself than who will be. It’s a way to include my family, friends, and myself in life’s moment!

A fool proof guide to setting & achieving your goals successfully

How to Successfully Achieve Goals

Setting goals for yourself can be such a motivational experience. It can give you somewhat of a high, letting your mind take over what your reality could be! To attaining any goal it takes continuous planning and holding yourself accountable.

Goal setting is a powerful process. It takes continuous effort and focus for thinking about your ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn your vision into reality. The process of setting goals helps you choose the path you need to take in order to achieve that goal. By knowing precisely what you want to achieve, you know where you have to concentrate your efforts. You’ll also quickly spot the distractions that can, so easily, lead you astray.

Why Set Goals?

Top-level business-people, successful performers, and bloggers in various niches all set goals. Setting goals give you a long-term vision and short-term motivation. I compare it to climbing up a flight of stairs. I see where I need to be. That’s my vision and each step I need to take is the motivation to push myself closer to where I want to be. But you may ask how do I keep that motivation going? It can be frustrating at times feeling like you’re not making any or much progress. Just like if you were just staring at that flight of stairs. Your muscles do get tired, your sweeting, and want to throw in the towel. You’re fighting with yourself mentally if you can keep pushing or not. Sometimes it feels like you are only seeing all the same steps you need to climb compared to a variety of mini actions.

How to Keep the Motivation Going

By setting sharp, clearly defined actions, you can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals, and you’ll see forward progress. It can be fulfilling to see what you can achieve once you set out a plan. You will also raise your self-confidence, as you recognize your own ability and competence in achieving the goals that you’ve set. Periodically review the longer term plans, and modify them to reflect your changing priorities and experience. A good way of doing this is to schedule regular, repeating reviews using your computer and setting a weekly reminder. For example, instead of having “to have 1,000 followers” as a goal, it’s more powerful to state your goal as “To have 1,000 followers by December 31, 2017.” Obviously, this will only be attainable if a lot of preparation and steps has been completed beforehand!

Starting to Set Personal Goals

You set your goals on a number of levels. First you create your “big picture” of what you want to do in the next year, and identify the large-scale goals that you want to achieve. Then, you break these down into the smaller and smaller targets that you must hit to reach your big picture goals. Finally, once you have your plan, you start working on it to achieve these goals. This is why we start the process of setting goals by looking at your lifetime or big picture goals. Then, we work down to the things that you can do in, let’s say, the next year, then next six months, next month, next week, and today, to start moving towards them.

Staying on Course

How many times do we look at our list and decide to knock off the little things because it will take less time? Reality of it is that knocking those small things off our list also makes us feel good. We see our list and say to ourselves wow look at all I got done. What we should be doing is not looking at our list to feel gratified and accomplished but review our list and rank them based on importance. After you rank your action items concentrate on your top 2 during the day. This is considered the 80/20 rule or Pareto principle. This is where 80% of your outcomes really come from 20% of your operational work load. When you need a 15 minute break from those 2 action items, then review your list to tackle one small item for no longer than 15 – 30 minutes! The key is not to get distracted. You are only making a pit stop not taking another route to your destination because you prefer another type of scenery.

Further Tips for Setting Your Goals

The following broad guidelines will help you to set effective, achievable goals:

  • Create positive action items/statements
  • Be detailed and as accurate as possible
  • Review your goals/plans Daily and prioritize
  • Visualize, draw, and write your goals down
  • Keep operational goals small – Keep the low-level goals that you’re working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it.
  • Set performance goals, not outcome goals –If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals, and draw satisfaction from them.
  • Set realistic goals – It’s possible to set goals that are too difficult because you might not appreciate either the obstacles in the way, or understand quite how much skill you need to develop to achieve a particular level of performance.

Achieving Goals

When you’ve achieved a goal, take the time to enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Absorb the implications of the goal achievement, and observe the progress that you’ve made towards other goals. If the goal was a significant one, reward yourself! All of this helps you build the self-confidence you deserve for all your hard work.

With the experience of having achieved your goal, ask yourself:

  • Was the goal easily attained or took much effort?
  • Is there a better process?
  • Where there additional skills needed?
  • What did I excel at?

Key Points

Goal setting is an important method of deciding what you want to achieve in your life. By setting goals it will help with separating what’s important from what’s a distraction. You will start to see a new you by building your self-confidence, based on successful achievement of goals. 

Set your big time goals first. Then, set a year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your ultimate plan. Keep the process going by regularly reviewing and updating your goals. And remember to take time to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving your goals when you do so. If you don’t already set goals, do so, starting now. As you make this technique part of your life, you’ll find your life full of achievements, and you’ll wonder how you did without it!

 

Back to Reality

The days leading up to my final ones on maternity leave were both stressful and exciting. I was ready to get back to talking like a normal person and leaving my baby voice at home. I was ready to see what was outside my house since I really stayed inside most of my maternity leave. I was too afraid to take my son out in the cold weather. But I was also scared of a lot of unknown factors and some that I thought I had control over and prepared for!

Time was running out and there were concerns that had not been taken care of. For example my daycare informed me three days before I started work that they will not be able to take my son. Let me add that this date was confirmed months in advance and I was communicated that it wouldn’t be a problem to take him in at that date. I cried for two days wondering what was I going to do about the care of my son and why do people do this. I needed to go back to work because I really needed the money for my family. My maternity leave was unpaid. But I am super thankful for the moms out there in our community that came in to support me. I was able to have someone watch my little man for a few hours a day until I could get him and my daughter into another daycare. Then there was also the stress of how am I going to be able to cook, clean, and have everything ready after work! For the past 6 weeks I had been spending all day doing chores that I will now need to do in 3 hours. I also knew I was going to be tired with adjusting myself and the family to another schedule. I took a deep breath and thought hey, we are moms and we conquer all and figure things out, that’s just what we do! So just do it! (And I did!)

Now on a more positive note, I was excited to get back into designing and seeing what I could accomplish in the work place. I wanted to challenge myself with my peers and feel like I did a great job accomplishing different project’s and consumer needs. I am not saying I don’t feel like I do a great job at being a mom but sometimes you need that reminder that you can accomplish and do all. That hey, I am Wonder Woman. Plus you know you’re good at it. During my first 6 weeks with my new born I questioned my ability at being good at juggling it all and at work I knew I was good at juggling.

Now from my experience I came up with some tips to help with getting everyone ready in the mornings before you leave the house. I hope this helps other moms and dads out there get adjusted to getting back to work and make it there on time!

  1. Prep at night! I had both kids’ bags packed and ready to go at the front door. If I could have had those bags in the car the night before I would have but the milk does need to be refrigerated. I also knew if I didn’t see the bags before I walked out that I might forget to grab the milk and possibly the bags too!
  2. I had my clothes picked out (for the whole week) and even went to bed wearing my leggings and undershirt. Anything I could have worn to bed with I did. I only needed to worry about the second half of my outfit once I got up. I also had my daughter sleep in her dress or leggings. I know that sounds like much but I was desperate to make sure we left the house on time! Especially for the moms watching over my son and doing me a favor.
  3. I also selected what makeup I was going to wear and placed it on the counter the night before. I had an empty cosmetics bag in case I needed to bring anything to work with me. If I didn’t finish doing something I would then throw it in the bag. My thought was if I was really running late I can toss my tooth brush, tooth paste, make-up, deodorant, and jewelry and run out the door with it!
  4. I had the coffee set to brew at 5:00am with my goal to leave the house by 6:00am. Smelling coffee when you get up, especially that early, always put a smile to my face. I also had the cup, sugar, spoon, vitamins, and anything else I needed for the morning right there next to each other in the corner of my kitchen. This was a huge help! It was a mini buffet section for me.
  5. I started work Monday so I packed a bunch of snacks for the whole week to take with me in case I ran late and forgot something for me. I also meal prepped my breakfast, lunches, and dinners. (I will be writing a blog about different ways you can meal prep!)

I hope this helped you and please comment on any tips and tricks that helped you and your family with their morning routines!

Pampered on the Dime

With a newborn I had been feeling worn down with trying to adjust to a new schedule with a baby and toddler by myself. It’s a lot of hard work! And don’t get me wrong I love it but it does take time to figure out when you should prep for dinner, do laundry, learn how your baby likes to sleep, when to sleep, and so much more! With juggling so much there comes a time you need to take care of yourself in order to go strong for another couple of weeks.

One way every mom could feel put together is by getting quality salon pampering once in a while. That can be extremely hard because of three factors; time, money, and who is watching the kids. How would the household survive for those few hours without me!? For me, I have been on maternity leave for 5 weeks and I was trying to figure out when I would have the time to get my hair done and if I could have some type of facial. Luckily I had visited my mom and she was able to help me watch my son and daughter, so I had two factors covered. Now what do I do about the cost to relax and feel like a new me? Well my mom came to my rescue again with not just money but ideas that every mom should know and I am eager to share! But first…

As you can see in my oh so thrilled before picture my hair had become frizzy and dull. The last time I had my hair professionally done was two years ago. Last year I attempted to do it myself by doing a box color and going to Walmart to have the ladies there cut my hair. It was ok but I didn’t have that wonderful relaxing spa experience that I very much needed. As woman we enjoy leaving that spa feeling like a million bucks, that someone else was taking care of us for a change.

Now here is my after picture. What a big difference! Now would you believe I only paid $50.00!!! That’s a steal to leaving looking that good and feeling great. How you may ask? Well there is a beauty school by my mother’s house that has had great reviews. I ended up paying 75% less than I normally would and learned a lot about hair and skin care since it was a school and teachers were asking questions of the students. It truly was a great experience and I felt relaxed knowing the teacher was there inspecting everything without it feeling like she was hoovering.

After my experience I decided to look into other ways getting pampered could be possible and that easy. I researched and found out that there is a lot of beauty schools out there that provide the same services for those great prices. You might have to type in beauty school and your location to find one. Then of course look at reviews and ask around to see how the experience was for others. Another tip I learned is that salons want new hair stylist to show their work at the salon before they hire them so they can check out their technique, skill, and how much time they take. You can let salons know you volunteer to be the person that potential hair stylists work’s on and to leave your number! When you do that your service is free! The only thing is you might be limited to what services they need to do, when they need to do it, and how much time they will take. However, these are all things you can discuss before the service.

I do have to share a product I am obsessed with! Bumble and Bumble Style and Blow Dry Creme. It helps protect your hair from the damage of heat from your blow dryer, straightener, and curling iron. For healthy hair, even fine or oil-prone, microfine oil-absorbing powders to extend the life of your blow dry right from the start, and this product lasts for days! Exactly what us moms need on the go. I have had my tube of this product for over 2 years now and I use it every time I wash my hair. I highly recommend getting this product if you get your hair done. Below is an affiliated link to the product I use but this brand carries so much more. Again I promise you won’t be disappointed with how well your hair looks and lasts with it!

I hope this information helps you Do It All Moms out there and please let me know if you have any other salon tricks to get pampered on a dime!

30 Ways for 30 Days to show simple ways of affection

When I started to think about Valentine’s Day I wanted to show my husband that there are ways to celebrate that doesn’t cost a dime. I wanted to do this for two reasons. One is that he is accustomed to events and holidays celebrated with balloons, banners, presents, the whole nine yards. There is nothing wrong with having all those decorations and extras but I wanted to show my husband what I cherish most is the thought and creativity of it all. My second reason is we are watching how we spend our money, especially now that we have a new born!

With those two reasons in mind I brainstormed on how I could be romantic for Valentine’s without a cost. During my brainstorm event another thought crossed my mind. Why plan for just one day? Valentine’s Day is to show your affection and love but I wanted it to last longer than just the one day. I wanted to take this opportunity to possibly start something special and rekindle our relationship. Since I got pregnant our romantic life has slowed down to prepare for another baby and for us both taking on side jobs to help the family income. That’s when I created my list of 30 ways for 30 days.

30 ways for 30 days is a list of quick, easy, and simple ways to show you care and that your thinking of your partner. I did not do each action item in order. It would depend on the day and mood that we were in. Below is my 30 ways for 30 days to show your affection. Join my email list to receive the template to track and check off each way you showed your affection!  

1.       Give a surprise hug and kiss

2.       Have sticky notes with cute messages in random places

3.       Send a sexy text message

4.       Make their favorite meal

5.       Read up on something they are interested in and discuss

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6.       Let them pick the movie/show

7.       Help them with a project they are working on

8.       Make them have a man’s/girls night

9.       Plan a date night

10.   Make them a treat

11.   Give them a massage

12.   When they arrive home make a big deal out of it other by yourself or w kids

13.   Wash the cars

14.   Give them a compliment every day

15.   Give a passionate kiss before work

16.   Explain what your grateful for

17.   Surprise them with getting dressed up for them

18.   Focus on them, turn off your phone and t.v

19.   Play a game together

20.   Create a new dish together

21.   Slow dance in the living room or outside under the stars

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22.   Set up a backyard starry night date

23.   Take a long walk together

24.   Take cute selfies together

25.   Create a bucket list together

26.   Do something to make them laugh

27.   Figure how to encourage them

28.   Make a point to smile more and be positive

29.   Learn about their hobby

30.   Explain why they are so special

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