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Kids Bop Saved Me!

Yup you heard me right! Kids Bop saved me by helping me from going insane. Really, I would have gone crazy if it latest any longer. I don’t know how other parents do it and bless them for it. I know you will understand once I explain and please be opened minded to what I am saying…

I have to travel a lot and I am not just in the car for a 15 minute drive. I usually am driving across county’s. The price we pay for living closer to our family and our kids getting to know them better and build that relationship. I at least travel for over hour 2 – 4 times a week with the kids. What else can you do in a car with a 2 and 4 year old? Can you guess it? SING!

I have had Frozen stuck in my head and Johny Johny for days! I am not a fan of either one. I know I know, everyone loves Frozen, except me. I just couldn’t get into it. So what else is a mom to do? You want your kids to have fun and consider how to make it that way knowing that for them getting in the car for long trips is going to be a constant in their future. You don’t want them to dread getting in and crying every time.

I discovered Kids Bop by mistake and so glad I did. They have a mixture of the new and old school hits but sung by kids. I was pleasantly surprised that my kids LOVED it. I think it is because there are kids singing and words they can pronounce. Currently my daughters favorite is Havana and Perfect. If you haven’t tried them it is a must. Some daycares also play these songs because Netflix has a show that teaches the kids to dance to the music. It keeps them active and engaged. Another trick I use when I want to keep the kids active and assist with their spirts of energy.

If your not sure what I am talking about check it out below!

 

Kids Bop made the car rides fun and interactive. I highly recommend them for the parents that need to switch it up a bit.

Failing News Year Resolution or Growing & Developing in Unexpected Ways?

Here we are again. It’s a new year and we have already created our New Years resolution. How is that going for you so far? For me I have lost sight of it and it’s still January (yup I started this article in January and still hadn’t posted!) I had thoughts, a plan, and a commitment so where did I go wrong? I felt like I was realistic in my goals and analyzed where I have gone wrong in the past. So what did I not account for?

I didn’t think about the outside factors enough. I can at least say I thought about them but just didn’t realized how much things out of my control could make such a big impact. For example, being sick for 2 weeks. Something as simple as that had me jumping off my own band wagon! My meal prepping never happened, my self control was gone, and trying to look nice with makeup and hair done… never happened. Same with my blog posts. They never happened (on my New Years resolution to work on).

Currently I am stuck in the car with my husband and two kids sleeping while we wait the rain to stop before running into the house. It gave me some rest and piece and quiet. It also gave me the time to really think about this month and why I feel stuck. I wanted to do stuff for my brand and couldn’t think how to do it. I realized that I could and should have been doing this all along. I have the resources but never really used them. Just made excuses to why I couldn’t do it. I would spend the time looking at everyone else’s post and pictures and think WTH! Why am I having issues. This was a great wake up call. I have lots of advice to give, tools, and resources and need to stop making excuses. Need to get out of my comfort zone and put myself out there. I believe that is the real reason I had stopped. Being so afraid of being judged sometimes. Not anymore, getting out of my comfort zone. Part of my New Year Resolution and new me. Wish me luck and be on the lookout for some great tips and tricks to keep you on track for this year!

My quick beauty secrets for the mom on the go!

Make up for the mama on the go!

As a busy mom I am always on the go and most of the time I look like it to. I would be lucky if my socks match. My style has been socks with ballet shoes, leggings, oversized t-shirt and my hair up. Of course its one of those days when you have had the same baby spit up shirt on for two days, your hair in a hot frizzy mess of a pony tail, that you run into someone important or worse… your ex. And it is hard, really hard, to spend some time on you. Like my mom say’s once you have kids your life is not yours anymore and I wouldn’t change anything about that. But I do need to figure out how to love me again.

I know I am not going to magically lose the 20 pounds I gained from my pregnancy or the few stretch marks I have will disappear. I get that, but I also know there are other things I can do to boost my self-esteem. Ya ya I know appearance isn’t everything especially when you just had a child however self-image is a big deal now a days. We see it in magazines and movies about the put together mom who can accomplish all. And all I want to do is look into the mirror and love myself. I want to know I put an effort because I am worth that effort.

Now how can I do that if most of the time I only have a few minutes before my toddler comes around looking for where I hid (yup sometimes I play hide and go seek in order to run to the bathroom or to just take a quick breather). From research and reviewing others tips and tricks I established my own ideas on how to do my hair and make-up quickly and effectively. Below is a list of my must have make up items and why it works!

  1. I use BB cream to not only give my complexion a great smooth look but it is also a sunblock and facial moisturizer as well. The brand I liked best was Missha M Perfect Cover BB Cream. The coverage was amazing and my dark spots seemed to be getting lighter. To give you a little info about BB cream it is very light so when you put it on its ok if you miss a little spot. It doesn’t create those lines you see on some people that did not blend their foundation well. For me that’s perfect because sometimes I am blindly putting it on and fast. This brand was also my favorite because it was easy to find the right skin tone for me and the liquid didn’t squirt out everywhere when I used it. Click on the picture to learn more about the product!

2. I use a pink and reddish tented lip gloss. My beauty secret is that I not only use it for my lips but also cheeks and eyes to give them color. I dab very lightly on my cheeks and then I rub it in. I might put more on my eyes to give a bolder color. Surprisingly it is not as sticky as I thought it would be. Now I do need to use my make – up remover to get it fully off my face but the other side to that is that it lasts long. I didn’t need to worry about reapplying for color in the cheeks or eyes. My favorite is below because since my lips are sensitive this helped with my lips pealing and was spf!

3. What I believe is my best feature is my eyes. I always make sure I have a great mascara brand that work well with my lashes. They say your eyes are the windows to your soul and I want my soul to say I am a confident mama!

Another reason why I love the products above is that it easily fits in my purse and doesn’t take much room. No need to tote a make – up bag around. They are my go to items that take me less than 5 minutes to put on. Just enough time for my mini me to find me from hide and seek or to put on in the parking lot. Below are a few more items that I will complement the above items with if I am lucky enough with time!

Powder to add a little bit more color and I feel like it lasts longer too since I am using a cream for a foundation.

Since straightening my hair takes forever it is out of the question. Plus I am paranoid of my little girl accidently touching it or tripping over the cord when she runs around me. My next best thing is my rollers. My hair does look great with the volume and curve it creates. Plus it takes a lot less time for me to do. While me hair is up I can be putting on the make-up. Also my rollers really straighten out my hair pretty well from the wave I have.

Now a favorite item of mine is my lip buffer! This sugar scrub leaves my lips smooth and baby soft! My lips tend to peal a lot and this gently exfoliates those dead skin cells and is not harsh at all. Also it is minty leaving my breath smelling good and it taste good as well (yup it is safe to taste). 

Something new I have tried since it has become such a fad is my eyebrows. I didn’t like how the pencil looked so I tried something new. It was of a gel consistency that glided really smooth and naturally. Then there is a powder to lock it in. I loved the look and it was actually fairly easy to do. My favorite brow brand was from ELF!

Now I still might be messy with my sock wearing ballet slipper shoe self but when I look in the mirror I feel better when I do those few simple make – up techniques. I know that as a mom I’m not going to be perfect but I give off that I do care about myself and I want my daughter to remember that. Now when I look in the mirror I don’t just see a tired messy person staring back, I see a confident hard working mom that looks like she has a little bit of herself together and doesn’t mind getting dirty too.

(Above are affiliate links. Affiliate links do not mean that the products are cheaper or more expensive; You click on the picture and a link will bring you to view the product description and location to buy. These products I recommend because they ARE great products, at great prices, and they worked for me!)

How to stay on your diet and still cook what the family wants!

It was very hard for me to cook for myself and the family. My husband was born and raised in the Dominican Republic and grew up eating what seems like nothing BUT carbs and starches. My problem is I am really not a carb person. Literally every meal for him is a meat, rice, and potatoes (YUKE). He won’t eat anything else. No Veggies, No Salad, No fruit, No Fish, I mean nothing else (sigh)… Worse is my daughter loves to eat like him too so I am outnumbered. I can only hope when my son gets older and can eat solid foods that he turns out like me and will like to eat everything and try new things.

So you can imagine eating all those carbs has done to my waist line and my confidence. I have gained 35 pounds (this was even pre-baby!) and it is so hard to lose. I really had to figure something out. My husband’s advice, “Just do portion control love and workout more.” When he said that to me I glared at him and threw a pillow in his face. He also had the nerve to try to argue that white rice is healthy for you because your body needs carbs. My husband obviously needs a course in food education on good and bad carbs.

If only it was that easy to just portion control more and workout more. Instead I was thinking I am going to have to cook two separate meals and buy twice the groceries then in order to accommodate for me and my needs. Yes this is a need because I wasn’t happy with the food I was eating and then feeling. The problem in this is I really couldn’t afford to buy extra food just for me to eat healthy. What could I do then?

I started to reevaluate what I bought and had to think of another way to use most of those ingredients I use to cook his unhealthy stew and Latin food to making my clean eating meals. What I noticed is a consistency of onions, tomatoes, peas, carrots, green peppers, and garlic. I could use most of those ingredients not only for his stew and meals but also for separate meals for me. I realized I wouldn’t have to exactly buy as much as I thought. Instead of putting all the ingredients into his and my daughters dish I could take my portion of that out and use it to make a salad or something lighter. Below is an example of how I started to cook smarter!

Theirs: Chicken stew – chicken breast, tomatoes, onions, garlic, lots of seasonings (so much sodium), potatoes, peas, carrots, cilantro, and beer (to create the broth of the stew). Then there is a side of rice and a hardboiled egg.

Mine: chicken cooked in tomatoes, onions, cilantro, and garlic (baked). Then there is a side of steamed broccoli and salad – lettuce, tomatoes, onions, carrots, and boiled egg.

The only thing extra I had to buy was broccoli, lettuce, and salad dressing. Everything else was already used for the stew. Since I already was cutting everything up for the stew it worked great because I would then just put that in with my salad or chicken. There really wasn’t any extra work! I still have to plan out the meals for the week but that’s what I do now. I see what I am going to cook them and the ingredients they will need. I then figure out what I can make from those ingredients that can be healthy for me.

I started to lose weight right away and feel better too! Don’t get me wrong I began to work out and watch my portions as well. Yes occasionally I would eat the food my husband likes to eat everyday but the key word here is occasionally. So next time your planning your family meals think what you could do to make your meal healthier and still satisfy them! Want to keep following what I do? Watch me on snapchat at caciastyle to see my food inspirations and quick workouts throughout the day!

Blogging in the Moment

Image of the Phone

When we step outside and join society we don’t really join society. We can be physically there next to someone but thanks to technology we rather connect with other strangers through the web than the ones next to us. For instance, when was the last time you went to a restaurant? (For me its been forever, can’t take my toddler to where she can sit with strangers because she will!) You rarely sit down at a table, look around you, and not see majority on their phone. Even the kids! The average age of a kid having a smart phone is 10. Really! At ten I was trying to figure out the tv or radio, yet alone a cell phone. We played on Nintendo’s and had to go outside to interact with kids. But I shouldn’t complain, it’s because of phones I am able to run my business.

In the Now

With smart phones in everyone’s hand they are able to keep up with the latest news, trends, and stay connected with people. We jump up with joy when we hear that bing sound to let us know exactly when things are happening on our social news feed. And we live for those bings! Groups or individuals are able to reach each other at any time and view what each other are doing right in that moment. It makes us feel like we were actually there. Families and friends can now be thousands of miles away and still feel like they are with you at special events.

The Necessity of the Phone

I do not know if you read my about me page but I am a very busy mom. I have two little ones, work a full time job, a side job of web design/development, as well as my own blog. Let’s not go into the things outside of work, that’s a whole other novel. When I am working I focus on what I need to accomplish. But of course there are moments in those hours that I really want to capture and share. Especially my ah ha moments to help other busy Do It All Moms! With my phone I am able to capture those events instantly and express genuine feelings. Followers want to see what happens in your life. It’s their real life of Keeping Up with the Kardashian but somewhat more personal. As a blogger I can respond to their reactions, comments, and questions.  I can also follow fellow bloggers and partner up with them at that time. There are periods when something happens that I realize I need to share or question for help. I am able to write down ideas when they happen in the note’s section in my phone. In all without my phone I truly believe I would not be successful at what I do.

Bad Images

Constantly being on the phone can set off a bad image to those around you. You can come off rude to those who do not have an online business. Family and friends might not understand the need of taking pictures every time they meet up with you and the constant posts. It will appear like you can’t live without the phone. It can seem to others around you that you can’t live in the now with people in that moment. You might appear fake because most of the time you are repositioning everything so that it looks perfect. Or they think worse that you had alternative motives to really catching up and hanging out with your friends. There is a gap of understanding what we really do as bloggers and what it takes to have a successful one.

Ways to Edit

Here are a few tips I use to correct those bad images that can be portrayed when constantly on the phone. When I do use those moments in my blog I include that person in it. I give them a shout out in the article expressing how I felt and why that moment was special with them. I always link the blog post back to that person so that they can see that I truly appreciated the time and why I had to brag about them. In my post, Pampering on the Dime, you can see how I utilized this technique with my mom. It’s something simple but she really enjoyed reading it and wanting to know the stats on that page. Also she couldn’t help but share the post on her social media threads. These little things help the ones around you understand what you do and make them feel exceptional. Now my mom sends me ideas and links to things so that she can be in every post!

In the Moment

Blogging in the now takes a lot of effort and time. To me it’s not just a 9 – 5, Mon – Fri job. Of course blogging can make you money but it’s even more about the strangers you meet that then become friends. My friends and family get to see another side of me and get to know what I was really thinking. It’s very personal and something I really enjoy. I am very passionate about my blog and why shouldn’t I be? It’s about my view on life and if I’m not passionate about myself than who will be. It’s a way to include my family, friends, and myself in life’s moment!

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