Category Archives: Mind & Spirit

Blogging in the Moment

Image of the Phone

When we step outside and join society we don’t really join society. We can be physically there next to someone but thanks to technology we rather connect with other strangers through the web than the ones next to us. For instance, when was the last time you went to a restaurant? (For me its been forever, can’t take my toddler to where she can sit with strangers because she will!) You rarely sit down at a table, look around you, and not see majority on their phone. Even the kids! The average age of a kid having a smart phone is 10. Really! At ten I was trying to figure out the tv or radio, yet alone a cell phone. We played on Nintendo’s and had to go outside to interact with kids. But I shouldn’t complain, it’s because of phones I am able to run my business.

In the Now

With smart phones in everyone’s hand they are able to keep up with the latest news, trends, and stay connected with people. We jump up with joy when we hear that bing sound to let us know exactly when things are happening on our social news feed. And we live for those bings! Groups or individuals are able to reach each other at any time and view what each other are doing right in that moment. It makes us feel like we were actually there. Families and friends can now be thousands of miles away and still feel like they are with you at special events.

The Necessity of the Phone

I do not know if you read my about me page but I am a very busy mom. I have two little ones, work a full time job, a side job of web design/development, as well as my own blog. Let’s not go into the things outside of work, that’s a whole other novel. When I am working I focus on what I need to accomplish. But of course there are moments in those hours that I really want to capture and share. Especially my ah ha moments to help other busy Do It All Moms! With my phone I am able to capture those events instantly and express genuine feelings. Followers want to see what happens in your life. It’s their real life of Keeping Up with the Kardashian but somewhat more personal. As a blogger I can respond to their reactions, comments, and questions.  I can also follow fellow bloggers and partner up with them at that time. There are periods when something happens that I realize I need to share or question for help. I am able to write down ideas when they happen in the note’s section in my phone. In all without my phone I truly believe I would not be successful at what I do.

Bad Images

Constantly being on the phone can set off a bad image to those around you. You can come off rude to those who do not have an online business. Family and friends might not understand the need of taking pictures every time they meet up with you and the constant posts. It will appear like you can’t live without the phone. It can seem to others around you that you can’t live in the now with people in that moment. You might appear fake because most of the time you are repositioning everything so that it looks perfect. Or they think worse that you had alternative motives to really catching up and hanging out with your friends. There is a gap of understanding what we really do as bloggers and what it takes to have a successful one.

Ways to Edit

Here are a few tips I use to correct those bad images that can be portrayed when constantly on the phone. When I do use those moments in my blog I include that person in it. I give them a shout out in the article expressing how I felt and why that moment was special with them. I always link the blog post back to that person so that they can see that I truly appreciated the time and why I had to brag about them. In my post, Pampering on the Dime, you can see how I utilized this technique with my mom. It’s something simple but she really enjoyed reading it and wanting to know the stats on that page. Also she couldn’t help but share the post on her social media threads. These little things help the ones around you understand what you do and make them feel exceptional. Now my mom sends me ideas and links to things so that she can be in every post!

In the Moment

Blogging in the now takes a lot of effort and time. To me it’s not just a 9 – 5, Mon – Fri job. Of course blogging can make you money but it’s even more about the strangers you meet that then become friends. My friends and family get to see another side of me and get to know what I was really thinking. It’s very personal and something I really enjoy. I am very passionate about my blog and why shouldn’t I be? It’s about my view on life and if I’m not passionate about myself than who will be. It’s a way to include my family, friends, and myself in life’s moment!

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Back to Reality

The days leading up to my final ones on maternity leave were both stressful and exciting. I was ready to get back to talking like a normal person and leaving my baby voice at home. I was ready to see what was outside my house since I really stayed inside most of my maternity leave. I was too afraid to take my son out in the cold weather. But I was also scared of a lot of unknown factors and some that I thought I had control over and prepared for!

Time was running out and there were concerns that had not been taken care of. For example my daycare informed me three days before I started work that they will not be able to take my son. Let me add that this date was confirmed months in advance and I was communicated that it wouldn’t be a problem to take him in at that date. I cried for two days wondering what was I going to do about the care of my son and why do people do this. I needed to go back to work because I really needed the money for my family. My maternity leave was unpaid. But I am super thankful for the moms out there in our community that came in to support me. I was able to have someone watch my little man for a few hours a day until I could get him and my daughter into another daycare. Then there was also the stress of how am I going to be able to cook, clean, and have everything ready after work! For the past 6 weeks I had been spending all day doing chores that I will now need to do in 3 hours. I also knew I was going to be tired with adjusting myself and the family to another schedule. I took a deep breath and thought hey, we are moms and we conquer all and figure things out, that’s just what we do! So just do it! (And I did!)

Now on a more positive note, I was excited to get back into designing and seeing what I could accomplish in the work place. I wanted to challenge myself with my peers and feel like I did a great job accomplishing different project’s and consumer needs. I am not saying I don’t feel like I do a great job at being a mom but sometimes you need that reminder that you can accomplish and do all. That hey, I am Wonder Woman. Plus you know you’re good at it. During my first 6 weeks with my new born I questioned my ability at being good at juggling it all and at work I knew I was good at juggling.

Now from my experience I came up with some tips to help with getting everyone ready in the mornings before you leave the house. I hope this helps other moms and dads out there get adjusted to getting back to work and make it there on time!

  1. Prep at night! I had both kids’ bags packed and ready to go at the front door. If I could have had those bags in the car the night before I would have but the milk does need to be refrigerated. I also knew if I didn’t see the bags before I walked out that I might forget to grab the milk and possibly the bags too!
  2. I had my clothes picked out (for the whole week) and even went to bed wearing my leggings and undershirt. Anything I could have worn to bed with I did. I only needed to worry about the second half of my outfit once I got up. I also had my daughter sleep in her dress or leggings. I know that sounds like much but I was desperate to make sure we left the house on time! Especially for the moms watching over my son and doing me a favor.
  3. I also selected what makeup I was going to wear and placed it on the counter the night before. I had an empty cosmetics bag in case I needed to bring anything to work with me. If I didn’t finish doing something I would then throw it in the bag. My thought was if I was really running late I can toss my tooth brush, tooth paste, make-up, deodorant, and jewelry and run out the door with it!
  4. I had the coffee set to brew at 5:00am with my goal to leave the house by 6:00am. Smelling coffee when you get up, especially that early, always put a smile to my face. I also had the cup, sugar, spoon, vitamins, and anything else I needed for the morning right there next to each other in the corner of my kitchen. This was a huge help! It was a mini buffet section for me.
  5. I started work Monday so I packed a bunch of snacks for the whole week to take with me in case I ran late and forgot something for me. I also meal prepped my breakfast, lunches, and dinners. (I will be writing a blog about different ways you can meal prep!)

I hope this helped you and please comment on any tips and tricks that helped you and your family with their morning routines!

30 Ways for 30 Days to show simple ways of affection

When I started to think about Valentine’s Day I wanted to show my husband that there are ways to celebrate that doesn’t cost a dime. I wanted to do this for two reasons. One is that he is accustomed to events and holidays celebrated with balloons, banners, presents, the whole nine yards. There is nothing wrong with having all those decorations and extras but I wanted to show my husband what I cherish most is the thought and creativity of it all. My second reason is we are watching how we spend our money, especially now that we have a new born!

With those two reasons in mind I brainstormed on how I could be romantic for Valentine’s without a cost. During my brainstorm event another thought crossed my mind. Why plan for just one day? Valentine’s Day is to show your affection and love but I wanted it to last longer than just the one day. I wanted to take this opportunity to possibly start something special and rekindle our relationship. Since I got pregnant our romantic life has slowed down to prepare for another baby and for us both taking on side jobs to help the family income. That’s when I created my list of 30 ways for 30 days.

30 ways for 30 days is a list of quick, easy, and simple ways to show you care and that your thinking of your partner. I did not do each action item in order. It would depend on the day and mood that we were in. Below is my 30 ways for 30 days to show your affection. Join my email list to receive the template to track and check off each way you showed your affection!  

1.       Give a surprise hug and kiss

2.       Have sticky notes with cute messages in random places

3.       Send a sexy text message

4.       Make their favorite meal

5.       Read up on something they are interested in and discuss

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6.       Let them pick the movie/show

7.       Help them with a project they are working on

8.       Make them have a man’s/girls night

9.       Plan a date night

10.   Make them a treat

11.   Give them a massage

12.   When they arrive home make a big deal out of it other by yourself or w kids

13.   Wash the cars

14.   Give them a compliment every day

15.   Give a passionate kiss before work

16.   Explain what your grateful for

17.   Surprise them with getting dressed up for them

18.   Focus on them, turn off your phone and t.v

19.   Play a game together

20.   Create a new dish together

21.   Slow dance in the living room or outside under the stars

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22.   Set up a backyard starry night date

23.   Take a long walk together

24.   Take cute selfies together

25.   Create a bucket list together

26.   Do something to make them laugh

27.   Figure how to encourage them

28.   Make a point to smile more and be positive

29.   Learn about their hobby

30.   Explain why they are so special

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My Positive Journal to a Positive Life

I have once read that we don’t realize how many good things that happen to us in a day. A lot of the small positive actions go unnoticed. Can you blame us we are moms! We are busy trying to keep up with the grocery list, the house keeping, cooking, work, and lets not forget the family. But we can’t let those small moment go unnoticed because those little things matter too and can makes a big difference in our lives when you reflect back on them.

That’s why I started a positive journal. It’s a small hand held journal that I keep with me in my purse, diaper bag, and even in the kitchen while I am cooking. Every time I see my positive journal, I recollect my day and write those small actions that really did mean something. At the end of the day, other when I am watching my little one take a bath or lying in bed, I reflect on that list and realize how much it has grown throughout the day. I would realize how much I was blessed and how many goods things went my way for that day. As a mom it’s a calming feeling and gives me a sense of accomplishment and appreciation.

I challenge you moms out there to try this. It does take time to build into a habit to remember to write everyday but it doesn’t take much time to actually write down a few things that happened that day. Here is a tip; do not get into details in your positive journal of what happened, just write down the action. For example, today when I went out this morning to treat myself and my daughter I was surprised to hear that the person in front of me paid for my coffee and my daughters breakfast. It was such a kind jester and was really touching. I wrote in my journal treated to coffee and breakfast. That is all I need to remember that moment and I am sure it will be the same for you. You should notice your attitude and days become more positive and the people around you will notice too!

Below is a great journal to start with! Its a great size and quality especially if your anything like me. I am always on the go and have to throw things in the diaper bag and need to make sure what I use can handle the abuse! Just keep that in mind when you pick out your journal!

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Positive Journal